Episode 25: Living in the Gray Area

This week we talk about what it means to live life in the gray areas. Nothing in life is black and white and that includes our relationships! Specific topics include:

• As we’ve seen, monogamy works for some people but not everyone. Same with polyamory. So, why can’t we live somewhere in the middle?

• Humans love to put labels on each other so we can easily understand each other. But not everyone fits into the labels and boxes we’ve created.

• What is monogamish or monogamy +

• Do monogamous people actually use “hall passes” or allow exceptions?

• Exceptions should be normalized if they feel beneficial. But the don’t ask don’t tell rule should not apply. It can be harmful.

• Get it out of your system vs. enjoy a temporary experience

• Imagine if we talked about having gray area or wiggle room in a relationship UP FRONT instead of waiting for an attraction to start. What would that be like?

• We don’t always know what we want out of relationships when they first start. So, rules and boundaries outside of monogamy should be discussed up front.

• Not all rules and boundaries are set in stone. It’s ok to change to fit your needs!